Arrogance vs being self assured – a common misconception
Friday, 18th May 2012
Firstly, blogging is not really my thing; it is far to self indulgent for me, so apologies if you find this dull!
As it happens, I was born with a face that over my 24 years has developed and matured to my advantage. It is a face that has natural features I cannot control, such as my brown eyes (often likened to chocolate buttons) and my lips (previously described as kissable), however it also includes features that have been carefully looked after and styled, for example my intricately styled, wavey brown hair. Throughout my years as a teenager and young adult, I have learnt carefully how to make the most of my natural looks and strive to be as ‘good looking’ as possible. This involves a variety of things all ultimately aimed at making myself appealable to women and someone men can aspire to look like. I style my hair with £20 hair paste, I spray myself with £60 cologne, I spend money on a nice suit and occasionally I have a cheeky sunbed and I am not ashamed or embarrassed about any of these things. In fact, I recommend them all if you want to appeal to a large proportion of the female population!
Often I have been judged by the way I look and my confident belief in myself, and ultimately the word that usually pops up is ‘arrogant’. Arrogance is defined as “an overbearing pride evidenced by a superior manner toward inferiors” (dictionary.com, 2012). What is most important in this definition is the reference towards being superior toward others – just because somebody takes care of their appearance, speaks confidently, is self assured in the way they look and know exactly what they want and goes out there to get it, does not make them arrogant, in fact it usually makes them successful!
Being good looking and accepting it/making the most of it is not arrogant, it is being honest – being self assured. Being better looking than someone else and gloating about it is arrogant – believing you are superior than that person because of the way you look.
There are a lot of self assured people and a lot of arrogant people in the world, however many people confuse the two. Ultimately someone isn’t arrogant because of the way they look or carry themselves, they would have to say something that insinuated that they believed they were superior to others for them to be arrogant as defined by dictionary.com.
Hopefully this clears things up for those of you who confuse the two! That said, maybe I am just a good looking, arrogant bast*rd!
Chris Nops


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